Why doesn’t everyone else think like me,
act like me, react like me. Believe what I believe
or live like I live?
In the book Alcoholics Anonymous it says “Selfishness – self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position of hurt.”
As I went through early recovery there were many resentments in my life I had to deal with. And, today I still get resentments, I just deal differently with them.
In life we all look for approval and when sometimes it doesn’t come we build up resentment towards people and situations unfairly. This usually leads to strained relationships with God and with others.
The solution to repairing these relationships is FORGIVENESS. To live at peace with God and others we have to learn to forgive. I am not responsible for how what other people think of me but I am responsible for what I think of them.
Resentment can lead to sinful actions. Exodus 20:17 tells us not to be envious of what other people have. In other words ‘do not resent what others have and you don’t’.
Possessions do not make anyone happy for long. God is the only supplier of all our needs and true contentment in life is only found in Him.
In my life today when I feel resentment coming on as a result of envy I STOP and remember what God has done and is doing in my life. I also ask the question “Why do I feel this way?, what is causing these feelings and what basic need in me is being unfulfilled?” I then take time to pray about what I am feeling and put trust in God to change my reaction the next time I feel resentment coming on as a result of envy.