Not all in recovery
Matthew 6:14 “Forgive people when they sin against you. If you do, your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you.
One of the problems with the process of recovery is – not everyone is in recovery, even though we all need it. We need to remember this fact when it comes to repairing relationships..The purpose of recovery is to help us live better lives through personal change with God’s help. It is not to make others love us or accept us more and it is definitely not for others to change because we have.
The fact is as we grow spiritually and change our habits and attitudes we may still come across people who will treat us badly. In those instances, we need to stop, say a prayer and leave them in God’s hands.
- Are you ready to let God deal with the people you can’t deal with?
Prayer: God help me today to accept that recovery is about
You helping me to change myself not others.
Time to forgive
Matthew 5:44 Here is what I tell you. Love your enemies. Pray for those who hurt you.
Forgiving others isn’t always easy. Often the pain is still real and raw. But forgiving is necessary to moving on in the process of recovery. The degree we are willing to forgive those who have hurt us is an indication of how much we have grown spiritually.
I grew up with an aggressive and abusive step-father. My resentment towards him was far greater than any other resentment I carried in my heart. When I entered recovery He was the hardest person for me to forgive. So much so that a couple of times my resentment for him threatened to bring me unstuck.
Through prayer, meditation, residing in the presence of God and understanding of my step-fathers faults I forgave – but it was hard.
- Are you carrying resentment that will lead to relapse?
Prayer: Lord help me to forgive.
Love Your Enemies
Matthew 5:43-48 “You’re familiar with the old written law, ‘Love your friend,’ and its unwritten companion, ‘Hate your enemy.’ I’m challenging that. I’m telling you to love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer, for then you are working out of your true selves, your God-created selves. This is what God does. He gives his best–the sun to warm and the rain to nourish–to everyone, regardless: the good and bad, the nice and nasty. If all you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus? Anybody can do that. If you simply say hello to those who greet you, do you expect a medal? Any run-of-the-mill sinner does that. “In a word, what I’m saying is, Grow up. You’re kingdom subjects. Now live like it. Live out your God-created identity. Live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you.
Loving our enemies is recovery progress. That doesn’t mean we have to like them or approve of their begaviour. it does mean we have to love them the way that God loved us (while we were still sinners) Anger and resentment are recovery killers and stunt our spiritual grwoth in recovery. The only person those emotions hurt is us. So we need to grow up (mature) if we want to truly live the lives God has planned for us and e the people He created us to be.
Recovery is not about living a perfect life (we are only human) but it is about following God and allowing Him to shape our character so we can make the right life choices according to His will for us.
Prayer: Lord help me today o accept eberyone for who they are.Remove any anger, resentment of ill feeling towards others I may be holding onto today.
Recovery takes TIME!
Philippians 1:6 I am sure that the One who began a good work in you will carry it on until it is completed. That will be on the day Christ Jesus returns.
Spiritual growth like physical growth takes time. When we first come to recovery we tend to want to change everything immediately. When it doesn’t we sometimes get frustrated and through frustration tell ourselves “the old way was better” “I got quicker results then.” When we come to our senses and realise this new path we are on is an unfamiliar one and it takes time to understand it. It takes time to walk it and the way forward is far better than anything we could have imagined for ourselves in the past we realise the destination (Christlikeness) is worth waiting for.
Recovery requires patience and persistence. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says “There is a time for everything. There’s a time for everything that is done on earth.” We need to remember as we move forward in recovery we made a conscious decision to turn our wills and our lives over to the care of God. That includes the timing of everything.
Prayer: Lord help me today to be patient as I wait on You.
Teach me patience and persistence and keep me focused on Your will for my life.
Friend of God
Proverbs 18:24 Even a man who has many companions can be destroyed. But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
I am a friend of God: It is unlike any other friendship I have ever been in. I trust Him completely and I know no matter what happens in my life, even when I get it wrong He will not let me down, criticize me or hurt me, Because He loves me, unconditionally.
Friendship involves loyalty. For many of us we haven’t received a lot of that in the circles we have mixed in pre-recovery. But as Bob Dylan says “The times they are a changing.”
He is a friend that sticks closer than a brother and I am glad He calls me His friend.
- Are you a friend of God’s?
- How often do you get together?
Prayer: God help me to understand the value of friendship with
You and help me to stay loyal to it.
Psalms 119:133 Teach me how to live as you have promised. Don’t let any sin be my master.
I love this verse in the Bible. I have one prayer I pray every day, sometimes several times a day and it is “God show me the next step.” The next step in my recovery, the next step in my relationships, the next step in my work etc.
In my life back in 1989 God and I reached an agreement. He leads I follow. From that day to this day that is how my life has worked. He opens doors and I walk through them. He creates opportunities and I grasp them with both hands. He shows me the next steps to take in my life and I follow them. Even though I can’t see the whole picture this much I am sure of: God didn’t bring me this far to drop me.
- How disciplined is your prayer life?
- When you pray do you give God time to answer?
Prayer: Lord help me today by showing me the next step I need to take.