Odd Man Out

logo_transparent_bgThe Mighty God, whose name is the Lord of hosts. You are great in counsel and mighty in work, for your eyes are open to all the ways of the sons of men, to give everyone according to his ways and according to the fruit of his doings. Jeremiah 32:18-19

Some of us when realizing we were addicts wanted to retreat from society. It felt better to avoid others and drink on our own. The odd man out syndrome appealed. In group meetings, we prefer to remain silent, choosing not to share too much about ourselves. Preferring not to learn too much about our problem selves. The less others know about us, the better. It’s like burying our heads in the sand. Loners, ill-at-ease in company.  Yet being shut up alone with our own thoughts and feeling is a wintry experience.

God announced, way back in Eden “It’s not good for man to be alone.”  He has invited us to keep company with Him. But too often we choose to turn our back on Him. When we learn to relate to Him properly it helps us to relate to others.

Recovery requires steering away from old habits. This too can lead to us having to accept the ‘Odd Man Out’ stigma. Moving away from old acquaintances and meeting places is sure to earn criticism and loss of popularity votes. We will suffer in some way; a cost that is inevitably worthwhile.

2 Corinthians 6:17-18

We cannot stand alone in the process of recovery. We need to latch onto all that God is able to provide for our well-being. How far are we willing to go?


Jesus Knows Everything

meProverbs 15:11 Death and the Grave lie open in front of the Lord. So human hearts certainly lie open to him!
God knows all about me. He understands my strengths and my weaknesses. He knows if I lie, cheat, steal or do anything He disapproves of.
One of the best clichés I have ever heard in recovery is “The mind is like a parachute. It works better when it is open.”
Open-mindedness in recovery is not an option. It is a necessity. We are all going to have to accept things we don’t want to accept. We are all going to do things we don’t want to do.
The ‘Good News’ in that is Jesus knows all about me so I can be completely honest with Him.
– How honest are you really?



Prayer: Jesus help me to be open and honest with You about my list, my feelings and my difficulties in accepting some of the things I need to do in recovery

“I Will Give You Rest”

You have created us for Yourself,
and our heart cannot be stilled till it finds rest in You.

logo_transparent_bgEverybody needs recovery. But recovery for us all looks different to that of other people. Some of us find it in Alcoholics Anonymous, some in Narcotics Anonymous. others in Celebrate Recovery some of us through other support groups. The bottom line, however, is “All groups lead to a relationship with God”

Jesus said, “Come to Me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you. Let Me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

Proverbs 16:9 says “We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.”
Proverbs 20:24  says “The Lord directs our steps, so why try to understand everything along the way?”

The Message Bible in Matthew 11:28-30 says “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me–watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

I have heard people over many years of recovery use Matthew 11:28 like it’s a get out of jail free card. But it isn’t. Jesus is pretty clear when He says “I will show you how to do it.” “Walk with me – watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace.”

Everyone needs recovery and many people get it in many different ways but if you want real rest through the process there is one way I know to get it and its found in John 14:6 Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through Me.”

  • Rest is important to maintaining life balance
  • Rest is an important part of God’s ultimate plan
  • Rest is a gift from God

Hebrews 4:9-11 There is a special rest still waiting for the people of God. For all who have entered into God’s rest have rested from their labors, just as God did after creating the world. So let us do our best to enter that rest. But if we disobey God, as the people of Israel did, we will fall.

Willing to go to any lengths

logo_transparent_bg1 John 3:4,8 Everyone who sins is breaking God’s law, for all sin is contrary to the law of God. But when people keep on sinning, it shows that they belong to the devil, who has been sinning since the beginning. But the Son of God came to destroy the works of the devil. 

Life for most of us falls short of our intentions. It is not easy to fail successfully or accept frustration without bitterness and sorrow. When we entered recovery we found companions or acquaintances well established in the process. Some rejoicing in what they are now enjoyably achieving.  Did we allow that to prolong our bid for freedom from our problems? Or did we rejoice with them and do what we needed to do to achieve recovery at any cost?

Recovery is personal. No one can achieve it for us and we cannot achieve it for anyone else. It takes hard work. It requires faith in God and total commitment to the process. Are you willing to go to any lengths to achieve it?



Change What You Say

logo_transparent_bgMatthew 12:35 A good man says good things. These come from the good that is put away inside him. An evil man says evil things. These come from the evil that is put away inside him.
A good man says good things! What we say should please God. When you speak to others would you speak differently if you thought God was examining every word you said? Would He approve of your words and your thoughts?
As we progress in recovery we need to change the way we think and the way we speak. I used to swear a lot. I don’t know why I just did. And I used to think all the wrong thoughts. Until I came into a relationship with the Holy Spirit, started to check myself and ask myself the question: “Would God approve?” We change what we say when we allow God’s love to guide our day.”
Prayer: Lord today let me speak to others as I would to You and to only use the word that You approve.
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