Acts 15:36-41 Paul said to Barnabas, “Let’s go back and visit all our friends in each of the towns where we preached the Word of God. Let’s see how they’re doing.” Barnabas wanted to take John along, the John nicknamed Mark. But Paul wouldn’t have him; he wasn’t about to take along a quitter who, as soon as the going got tough, had jumped ship on them in Pamphylia. Tempers flared, and they ended up going their separate ways: Barnabas took Mark and sailed for Cyprus; Paul chose Silas and, offered up by their friends to the grace of the Master, went to Syria and Cilicia to build up muscle and sinew in those congregations.
In the process we all need to examine our motives and pay attention to the motives of those who walk with us. Mixing with the wrong company whilst is the process of recovery can lead us back to our old ways of thinking and acting. Relapse is a process that generally occurs over a period of time. Taking daily inventory of our lives, attitudes and actions and taking steps to address what we get wrong each day is an important part of the process.
STEP TEN: Now that I am in the process of change, I will check myself daily to make sure I am not slipping back into my old ways and if I am, I will take steps to rectify it.
There is a song we used to sing in The Salvation Army in the early days of my recovery that said “I’ll not go back, whater it may cost. I’m called to live to love and save the lost.” When we come across people with the wrong motives we are not called to ignore them but to include them by doing all we can to teach them the right way to live and helping them to discover God’s pathway for their lives so they to can lead others to a personal relationship with God.
STEP TWELVE: Having gone through these steps and discovering the importance of individual relationship with God through Jesus, I will try to live according to His principles and to lead others to s personal relationship with Him.
Psalm 26:2 Examine me, God, from head to foot, order your battery of tests. Make sure I’m fit inside and out.
Proverbs 21:2 We justify our actions by appearances; God examines our motives.
Proverbs 21:8 Mixed motives twist life into tangles; pure motives take you straight down the road.
1 Corinthians 4:3-5 It matters very little to me what you think of me, even less where I rank in popular opinion. I don’t even rank myself. Comparisons in these matters are pointless. I’m not aware of anything that would disqualify me from being a good guide for you, but that doesn’t mean much. The Master makes that judgment. So don’t get ahead of the Master and jump to conclusions with your judgments before all the evidence is in. When he comes, he will bring out in the open and place in evidence all kinds of things we never even dreamed of–inner motives and purposes and prayers. Only then will any one of us get to hear the “Well done!” of God.