Submission and Humility are essential to recovery God gives us more and more strength to stand against all evil longings. As the Scripture says, God gives strength to the humble but sets himself against the proud and haughty. So give yourselves humbly to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. And when you draw close to God, God will draw close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and let your hearts be filled with God alone to make them pure and true to him. Let there be tears for the wrong things you have done. Let there be sorrow and sincere grief. Let there be sadness instead of laughter, and gloom instead of joy. Then when you realize your worthlessness before the Lord, he will lift you up, encourage and help you. James 4:6-10
When we admit our lives are a mess and out of control we draw close to God and the grip our dependencies has on us weakens allowing us to begin the process of rebuilding our broken lives.