STEP NINE WE MADE DIRECT AMENDS TO SUCH PEOPLE WHEREVER POSSIBLE,
EXCEPT WHEN TO DO SO WOULD INJURE THEM OR OTHERS,
Romans 12:17-18 Don’t hit back; discover beauty in everyone. If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody.
I read this verse and immediately into my head jumps the phrase “Don’t get hurt, get even. ” Seek revenge at all cost. That’s how I used to think. If you hurt me I would hurt you back, but worse. If you took something from me I would take away something from you, but more precious. It wasn’t a healthy way to live and it meant through recovery I had a lot of work to do on me.
The second part of verse 17 says “discover beauty in everyone.” In other words, seek the good in everyone. Look for ways to repair relationships to damage them further.
I have heard a lot of people over the years say to me “I talked to God about it, that’s enough.” It’s not! Damaged relationships need to be repaired if we want to move forward in recovery and they need to be repaired through talking to the person concerned, listening to them, accepting that whilst their opinion may be different to mine they are entitled to have it.