Step One: I admit that my life is a mess and I am out of control.
We justify our actions by appearances; God examines our motives. Mixed motives twist life into tangles; pure motives take you straight down the road. Don’t be naive. Some people will impugn your motives, others will smear your reputation–just because you believe.
First pride, then the crash– the bigger the ego, the harder the fall. This world is not your home, so don’t make yourselves cozy in it. Don’t indulge your ego at the expense of your soul.