STEP EIGHT As part of the process of change, I will identify and record everyone I have harmed and through prayer become willing to make restitution to them.
Welcome to Living Life Recovery. Now being the eighth month of 2021 we continue looking at some of the issues surrounding this step and some of the solutions I have found through my own experience of recovery.
Matthew 5:44 says “Here is what I tell you. Love your enemies. Pray for those who hurt you.“
Forgiving others isn’t always easy. Often the pain is still real and raw. But forgiving is necessary to moving on in the process of recovery. The degree we are willing to forgive those who have hurt us is an indication of how much we have grown spiritually.
I grew up with an aggressive and abusive stepfather. My resentment towards him was far greater than any other resentment I carried in my heart. He is the only person I ever really hated.
When I entered recovery He was the hardest person for me to forgive. So much so that a couple of times my resentment for him threatened to bring me unstuck. Through prayer, meditation, residing in the presence of God, and understanding of my step-father’s faults I forgave him – but it wasn’t easy.
PRAYING FOR THE STRENGTH TO FORGIVE OTHERS IN THE PROCESS OF RECOVERY IS ESSENTIAL
“In prayer, there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part.” Matthew 6:14-15
- When we refuse to forgive others why do we feel we have a right to grumble when God chooses not to forgive us?
WE NEED TO MAKE ALLOWANCES AND UNDERSTAND WHERE OTHERS ARE COMING FROM
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Colossians 3:13
- Where were you when God brought you into recovery?
- Why didn’t He leave you there?
GOD WANTS TO TO FORGIVE OUR SINS – BUT WE NEED TO BE HONEST WITH HIM AND WITH OTHERS
If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth. But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. 1 John 1:8-9
- Are you carrying resentment that will lead to relapse?