Tag: Mentor

2022 | Day Twelve | Discussion Starter

James 1:19  Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear.

I remember when I first came to recovery my sponsor said to me ‘take the cotton wool out of your ears and put it in your mouth.”

The best advice I ever received. None of us ended up here, in recovery because we wanted to. None of us got up one day and said “it’s a nice day, the sun is shining I think I will go to recovery.” We ended up in recovery because God knew it is where we need to be.

My advice to everyone reading this today is to listen to those who have been here longer than you. They know more because they have traveled the road longer and have more experience.

  • How did you arrive in recovery?
  • Are you willing to learn from others?

Prayer: Just for today Lord open my ears and my mind. Teach me to listen to and advice and apply it?

People who talk all the time tend to think less. Usually interested in their own satisfaction than those they are speaking to. Lack of restraint is a condition in which sin loves to work.

It says in Proverbs 13:7 “A pretentious, showy life is an empty life.” Proverbs 14:2 says “An honest life shows respect for God.” And, Psalm 146:3 says “Don’t put your life in the hands of experts who know nothing about life,”

One of the most important steps in the recovery process is to get a ‘sponsor’ or ‘mentor’ They need to be God-selected and they need to be living a life that pleases God. Otherwise, they are just going to teach you their bad habits, wrong beliefs and encourage you to follow their words instead of Gods.


God has a Plan and a Purpose for us all

Read: Psalm 32:8-11
Focus Verse: I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.

God has a plan and a purpose for us all. Just as He created us all in His image as individuals His plan for our recovery is individual.

One of the most important aspects of the recovery process is the subject of sponsors/mentors. We all need one, but they need to be the right one. Sponsors/mentors in the process of recovery are special individuals. Whose God-given task is to guide and support people on God’s path for them. It is not to create carbon copies of ourselves.

The carbon copy of recovery is Jesus Christ and our goal through the process of character change needs to be to become more like Him.

  • Do you have a Sponsor or Mentor who is helping you in recovery?


Prayer: Lord help me discover Your individual plan for my life and follow it.


We need to be careful not give in to the influences of others at the cost of jeopardising our recovery.


Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you. “Whoever acknowledges me before others, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven.


You know that when you were pagans, somehow or other you were influenced and led astray to mute idols. Ask yourself this question “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people


Matthew 5:16 ~ Matthew 7:12 ~ Matthew 10:32

1 Corinthians 12:2 ~ Galatians 1:10



Having gone through these steps and discovering the importance of an individual relationship with God through Jesus, I will try to live according to His principles and to lead others to a personal relationship with Him.


  1. In order to keep it, you have to give it away.
  2. You can’t give away what you don’t have.
  3. The only way to get it is ‘Living Life Recovery’ one day at a time in a relationship with Him.


#2312 Mentoring

Every man should seek to have three individuals in his life: a Paul, a Barnabas, and a Timothy.

A Paul is an older man who is willing to mentor you, to build into your life. Not someone who’s smarter or more gifted than you, but somebody who’s been down the road. Somebody willing to share his strengths and weaknesses—everything he’s learned in the laboratory of life. Somebody whose faith you’ll want to imitate. A Barnabas is a soul brother, somebody who loves you but is not impressed by you. Somebody to whom you can be accountable. Somebody who’s willing to keep you honest, who’s willing to say, “Hey, man, you’re neglecting your wife, and don’t give me any guff!” A Timothy is a younger man into whose life you are building. For a model, read 1 and 2 Timothy. Here was Paul, the quintessential mentor, building into the life of his protege—affirming, encouraging, teaching, correcting, directing, praying. Do you have these three guys in your life? Howard Hendricks

2017 – Week 6

This week at Living Life Recovery we are looking at week five of our six-week series ‘MENTORING’Dispelling some mentoring myths.

Discipline in recovery means doing the right thing at the right time for the right reasons. Whether we want to or not.

In the Message Bible in Psalms 121:1-2  “I look up to the mountains; does my strength come from mountains? No, my strength comes from God, who made heaven, and earth, and mountains.” God alone is the source of all recovery victory. He watches over us in every area of our lives and protects us when we put our faith in Him. He guards our lives and hearts against dangers and temptations that threaten to lead us to relapse and destruction.

It is important in the mentoring process we believe and remember there is one Master and one true Mentor. If we are truly going truly make a difference in the lives of others everything we do and say needs to founded in His Spirit.

There are many myths (excuses) about mentoring that we and others use for not following through on tasks begun in Jesus’ name.

Some of them are:

  • I’m too young/old
    1 Timothy 4:12 Don’t let anyone put you down because you’re young. Teach believers with your life: by word, by demeanor, by love, by faith, by integrity.
  • I’m too inexperienced
    John 3:11 Listen carefully. I’m speaking sober truth to you. I speak only of what I know by experience; I give witness only to what I have seen with my own eyes. There is nothing secondhand here, no hearsay. Yet instead of facing the evidence and accepting it, you procrastinate with questions.
  • I lack confidence
    Psalms 12:1 Quick, God, I need your helping hand! The last decent person just went down, All the friends I depended on gone.
  • I can’t find the right people
    Luke 6:35 “I tell you, love your enemies. Help and give without expecting a return. You’ll never–I promise–regret it. Live out this God-created identity the way our Father lives toward us, generously and graciously, even when we’re at our worst.”
  • I’m too busy
    Matthew 11:17 ‘We wanted to skip rope, and you were always too tired; we wanted to talk, but you were always too busy.’
  • I’m concerned about committing myself for an extended period
    John 6:29 Jesus said, “Throw your lot in with the One that God has sent. That kind of a commitment gets you in on God’s works.”

I am sure you can find many other myths about the process of mentoring these are just some I thought of. The bottom line is in the process of life and recovery God brings into our sphere of influence many people He wants us to engage with and help where we can. Don’t let these or other excuses stop you from being all He is calling you to be and doing all He is calling you to do.

2016 Day 111

I got up this morning and thought “I’ll cook myself some breakfast” After the breakfast was cooked I thought what to do now and God said “Open your Bible” Now I don’t know about anyone else but when God says to me open your Bible, without telling me where to open it I always go to Proverbs. There are thirty-one and you can open the one for whatever day of the month you are on.

So I got my Life Recovery Bible andopened it up at Provebs twenty and verse one said Wine produces mockers; alcohol leads to brawls. Those led astray by drink cannot be wise.” That verse led me to remember times in my past where drinking too much or taking too many drugs has landed me in trouble. It reminded me of times growing up where I thought I was wiser than I was and made the wrong decisions and choices in my life because of it.

I remeber a few years ago I asked my mentor at the time,  Robert Colman, “How do I become as wise as you Robert?”  He seems to know the right answer for everything and he said to me “Keep doing what you are doing until you are 74.” Robert was 74 at the time

Psalms 119:97-98 Lord, I really love your law! All day long I spend time thinking about it. Your commands make me wiser than my enemies, because your commands are always in my heart. Gods Word makes us wise. True wisdom goes beyond gathering knowledge. True wisdom is applying the knowledge we aquire in our lives through our own experiences and the experiences of others, good and bad in accordance to God’s Word and His plan for our lives.

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