Tag: Relationships

Caring Is A Choice

11th September 2019 aeboyle 2019, Discussion Starters, Step 9 Comments Off on Caring Is A Choice

 HAVING IDENTIFIED THE PEOPLE, I HAVE HARMED,
I WILL NOW GO AND MAKE RESTITUTION TO THEM.
UNLESS TO DO IS GOING TO CAUSE THEM OR OTHER PAIN OR SUFFERING.

I didn’t want to do anything behind your back,
make you do a good deed that you hadn’t willingly agreed to. Philemon 1:14

 Recovery is a choice and how far we want to go to change our lives is a choice.

How committed are you to repairing relationships?

 Not all of us are the same. We have different strengths, weaknesses, abilities, and gifts. We are not all meant to teach, we are not all meant to become Sponsors or mentors, but we are all meant to care.

Caring is also a choice. The great thing about the choices we make in our lives is we usually make our choices based on how much we are willing to commit.  The depth we are prepared to go to repairing our relationships is also dependent on how much we care and are willing to commit.

The one relationship we must never skimp on a commitment to is our relationship with God.

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 Prayer: Lord today help me to care and commit to repairing my relationships.

Praise God and Encourage Others

18th July 2019 aeboyle 2019, Discussion Starters, July 1 Comment

Read: Psalm 34:1-7
Focus Verse: I prayed to the Lord, and He answered me. He freed me from all my fears. 

In the process of God changing our sinful habits and attitudes it is important we keep our focus on Him.

If you ask ten different people in recovery the best way of achieving and maintaining recovery you will get ten different answers.

Recovery in my life is covered in prayer, meditation and being led by God. I do have trusted people in my life whom I go to bounce things off but the final decision in everything I do lies with me and God. God gave us free will for a reason. I believe that reason is to see how much we have learned through a relationship with Him and how we implement in our daily living. Don’t make any decisions you have not talked to God about.

  • When was the last time you focused on God?

 

Prayer: Lord help me today to focus on You and your will for me.

One of my biggest concerns in my life is ‘people who still suffer from the negative effects of their problems in their lives.’ These verses encourage us to share what God is doing in and through our lives with others. Bill Wilson found relief from alcoholism when he found another alcoholic to share with. We need to learn to do the same. To share our faith and encourage others to get to know Jesus for themselves.

4o Days of Recovery – Day 3

4th February 2019 aeboyle 2019, Daily Reflection, February Comments Off on 4o Days of Recovery – Day 3

Matthew 3:8 It’s your life that must change, not your skin!

Keep your word even when it costs you. God changes the seasons and guides history, He raises up kings and also brings them down, he provides both intelligence and discernment. He says “I am God–yes, I haven’t changed.” All this comes from the God who settled the relationship between us and him, and then called us to settle our relationships with each other. All of us! Nothing between us and God, our faces shining with the brightness of his face. And so we are transfigured much like the Messiah, our lives gradually becoming brighter and more beautiful as God enters our lives and we become like him. God will transform our earthy bodies into glorious bodies like his own. He’ll make us beautiful and whole with the same powerful skill by which he is putting everything as it should be, under and around Him. Psalms 15:4 ~ Daniel 2:21 ~ Malachi 3:6 ~ 2 Corinthians 3:18 ~ Philippians 3:21

Recovery is about submitting to God and allowing Him to change us from the inside out. He created everything, He calls us through the process of recovery to change ourselves and in doing so change our lives. He is calling us to get into a personal relationship with Him and through our relationship with Him learn what it means to Him to be in relationships with others. Through being in His presence He promises to make us more and more like His Son “One Day at a Time.”

#2176 Patiently Waiting

26th December 2018 aeboyle 2018 Comments Off on #2176 Patiently Waiting

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James 5:8 Be patient. Stay steady and strong. The Master could arrive at any time.

 I am not good at waiting, for anything. My guess is I am not alone. As human beings we expect everything to happen instantly. That’s the kind of world we live in.

The Bible tells us to be patient and patience is developed through waiting. God also promises to reward us for doing good, when He is ready.

For the last ten or eleven years I have been wrestling with writing a book. Wrestling because writing it brings back memories I would rather not remember. Through it all two things have kept me going. My relationship with God and my recovery. Because of them I have the patience to keep waiting till God tells me it’s time?

 

  • What are you waiting for?

Living Life Recovery Reflection #231

20th August 2017 aeboyle 2017, August, Living Life Recovery 1 Comment

Compromise

2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be joined to unbelievers. What do right and wrong have in common? Can light and darkness be friends?

 As we go through the process of repairing our relationships it is important we do not let those relationships compromise our relationship with God. Doing so may weaken our spiritual commitment and integrity and reduce our standards back to our old way of thinking and acting.

God wants others to see what He is doing in and through our lives and He wants to use that to prompt them to consider a change. They won’t if we lower ourselves to their standards instead of raising our attitudes and behaviors to His and sticking to them.

In recovery, we need to avoid people and places that compromise our recovery.

  • When are you willing to compromise what you have learned in recovery to save a relationship?

Prayer: Lord help me to stay true to what You have taught me.

LIVING LIFE RECOVERY REFLECTION #225

13th August 2017 aeboyle 2017, August, Living Life Recovery Comments Off on LIVING LIFE RECOVERY REFLECTION #225

Get Even

I read this verse and immediately into my head jumps the phrase “Don’t get hurt, get even.” That’s how I used to think. If you hurt me I would hurt you back, but worse. If you took something from me I would take away something from you, but more precious. It wasn’t a healthy way to live and it meant through recovery I had a lot of work to do on me.

The second part of this verse says “Be careful to do what everyone thinks is right.” In other words, don’t just take action that is going to make you feel better without repairing relationships.

I have heard a lot of people over the years say to me “I talked to God about it, that’s enough.” It’s not!

  •  Who would you rather get even with than repair the relationship with?

 

Prayer: Lord help me today to recognise the people on my list I am holding resentments against and help me to address them.

 

Our relationships should never compromise our faith.

27th November 2016 aeboyle 2016, Recovery Comments Off on Our relationships should never compromise our faith.

2 Corinthians 6:14 Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple? But that is exactly what we are, each of us a temple in whom God lives. God himself put it this way:“I’ll live in them, move into them;I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people.So leave the corruption and compromise;leave it for good,” says God.“Don’t link up with those who will pollute you.I want you all for myself.I’ll be a Father to you;you’ll be sons and daughters to me.”The Word of the Master, God.

Daily Reflection September 11, 2016

11th September 2016 aeboyle 2016, September Comments Off on Daily Reflection September 11, 2016

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Bible Reading: Matthew 12:22-32
Focus Verse: Matthew 12:25 Jesus knew what they were thinking, and so he said to them, “Any country that divides itself into groups which fight each other will not last very long. And any town or family that divides itself into groups which fight each other will fall apart.


After Jesus healed a demon-possessed man the Pharisees heard about it and said the reason He could cast out demons was because His power came from Satan. There are times in recovery when we meet people or we ourselves think there must be a trick to this. No one can possibly overcome their addictions and compulsions by believing in God and giving control of their lives to Him.

Sadly Christ-centred recovery is often rejected or overlooked by those who need it most or people turn away from it because others convince them it is not the right way to obtain and maintain recovery.

There are plenty of good influences in recovery. People who are able to talk sensibly about the process and God’s place in the process. It is up to us to seek them out and to assoiciate ourselves with them. We need to make a conscious decision to be strong, to read the right material, attend the right groups and associate with the right people if we are going to successfully learn God’s will for our lives and carry it out.

My God is a God who created, communicated, rested and related. Those are the guidelines of my recovery. Give it to God, build on Biblical foundations; learn from Him, communicate His Word to others, rest when I need to and be selective about my relationships.

Prayer:
Introduce me God to the right things. Things that You approve of and want me to enjoy. Help me to steer clear of the wrong things, sinister and sinful things, in Jesus name I pray.

It’s about relationships

20th August 2016 aeboyle 2016 Comments Off on It’s about relationships

It’s about relationships:-  Romans 12:14-21 Bless your enemies; no cursing under your breath. Laugh with your happy friends when they’re happy; share tears when they’re down. Get along with each other; don’t be stuck-up. Make friends with nobodies; don’t be the great somebody. Don’t hit back; discover beauty in everyone. If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody. Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it.

Daily Reflection August 19, 2016

19th August 2016 aeboyle 2016, August Comments Off on Daily Reflection August 19, 2016

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2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be joined to unbelievers. What do right and wrong have in common? Can light and darkness be friends?

 As we go through the process of repairing our relationships it is important we do not let those relationships compromise our relationship with God. Doing so may weaken our spiritual commitment and integrity and reduce our standards back to our old way of thinking and acting.

God wants others to see what He is doing in and through our lives and He wants to use that to prompt them to consider change. They won’t if we lower ourselves to their standards instead of raising our attitudes and behaviours to His and sticking to them.

In recovery we need to avoid people and places that compromise our recovery.

  • When are you willing to compromise what you have learned in recovery to save a relationship?

 

Prayer: Lord help me to stay true to what You have taught me.

 

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