Proverbs 28:26 Anyone who trusts in himself is foolish. But a person who lives wisely is kept safe.
“I only trust myself!” “I can do it!”
Two of the most self-deceptive statements we have all said at one time or another in our lives. We have been on this road together for a little while now and I want to ask you the question: Who do you trust?
Some of the most valuable things I have learned, implemented and shared in my recovery and life are things I have learned from other people. None of us are here by mistake. We are here because it is where we need to be and God has brought us here.
Proverbs 3:5-7 says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take. Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the Lord and turn away from evil.”
I believe we need two solid relationships in our life. One is with someone who is further down the recovery road than we are. Who can help us not to make the same mistakes others have made. And, someone who is on our level, walking with us who will keep us on track and keep us accountable on a day to day basis.
- Have you established a mentor/sponsor and accountability partner?
- If not, why not? Do it now, today!
Proverbs 26:11 A foolish person who does the same foolish things again is like a dog that returns to where it has thrown up.
Paul says “I have discovered this principle of life–that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. I love God’s law with all my heart. But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me.” Romans 7:21-23
Wanting recovery isn’t enough. It takes work, it takes prayer, it takes faith, perseverance and dependence on God to do for us what we are unable to do for ourselves.
I have lived a lot of places in the past. Most of which I moved to in search of a ‘fresh start’ All of which didn’t work out. With the best of intentions every time I moved. A desire to stop drinking and abusing life. The reason they didn’t work out was I kept taking me (and the power that made me mess up: sin) with me as I travelled all around Australia trying to change.
It was never a lack of desire to be different but a lack of knowledge of how to and a lack of faith in God to help me.
One of the hardest things I have ever had to do in recovery, for my own survival was make the conscious decision ‘no more’ No more blaming others or my circumstances. No more making excuses, no more lying, cheating, stealing and no more drinking. No more, mo matter how bad or how good it got. Jesus tells us “In this world, you will have trouble but take heart I have overcome the world.”
Recovery is a process of handing over the bad and wrong things in our character that have made us dysfunctional and replacing them with God character to help us to function on a daily basis with the changes needed to preserve with our ‘NO MORE’ decision.
Have consciously decided ‘No More’
How are you going with that?
Put Your Faith In God!
“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is.” Those who trust their own insight are foolish. People will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. Faith comes from hearing, that is, hearing the Good News about Christ.
Jeremiah 17:9 ~ Proverbs 28:26 ~ 2 Timothy 3:2-5 ~ James 1:20 ~ Romans 10:17
Our actions will show that we belong to the truth so we will be confident when we stand before God. Even if we feel guilty, God is greater than our feelings, and He knows everything. Dear friends, if we don’t feel guilty, we can come to God with bold confidence. And we will receive from Him whatever we ask because we obey Him and do the things that please Him. And this is His commandment: We must believe in the name of His Son, Jesus Christ, and love one another, just as He commanded us. Those who obey God’s commandments remain in fellowship with Him and He with them. And we know He lives in us because the Spirit He gave us lives in us. 1 John 3:19-24
God knows all about us. He knows everything we are feeling and everything we are doing. He also knows our motives for doing them.
we come to recovery and try to do the right thing but things don’t go the way we planned. So, we get down on ourselves and beat ourselves up because we are human. Step Two says “I Believe That God Exists.” and “I Believe That He Cares About Me.”
The Bible tells us “we must believe in the name of His Son, Jesus Christ, and love one another, just as He commanded us.” It goes on to tell us “Those who obey God’s commandments remain in fellowship with Him and He with them.”
God doesn’t want us to beat ourselves up because we make mistakes. In recovery, the best way for us to rectify our mistakes is outlined in Step Nine when it says “Having identified the people, I have harmed, I will now go and make restitution to them” Remember God knows you, He knows all about you and He loves you anyway.
“Our actions will show that we belong to the truth” How are your responding to your mistakes as you move forward on the road to character change?
Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that may seem right to a man. But in the end it leads to death.
I have never liked the taste of alcohol, even when I drank. I drank for the feeling.
When I realised I had a drinking problem, it was destroying my life and would probably result in my dying, I drank for the feeling.
I had a discussion with someone just yesterday about the insanity of addiction’ and our disregard of consequences for the sake of the feeling.
The best definition I have ever heard of insanity is ‘Doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.’
- It’s time to stop ignoring the feeling and start concentrating on reality.
Psalms 69:33 The Lord hears those who are in need. He doesn’t forget his people in prison.
It still amazes me, so many years after being in recovery to look back and see God’s intervention.
I remember times where I have thought ‘this is it, it’s all over now.’ And believed it was and something out of the ordinary has happened. Something that has made it possible for me to cope and to go on in hope.
We can’t always see what God is doing in our lives on our behalf He assures us He is always watching, always waiting to help us and always ready to do for us what we can’t do for ourselves.
- Take time today to stop! To talk to God about the seemingly impossible things in your life and to thank Him for His assistance with them
“I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.”ROMANS 12:1
Most of us don’t seek help until we realize that something is out of control in our lives. Sometimes another person realizes it for us, but either way, we come looking for help in an area that obviously needs attention. After we’ve been in recovery for a while, however, it becomes clear that flaws in our character may have been what got us into big trouble in the first place. If we don’t deal with them, they will keep us from living a life fully committed to Christ.
The bad news is that we all have these character flaws. No one is perfect. Maybe we are people pleasers, or we have anger issues. We might feel we have to spend money to feel good about ourselves, or we use food to stuff our emotions. We may have control issues. Whatever the case, these character flaws are always at the root of our big problems.
It’s important to acknowledge these character flaws and offer them to God. We start with the big issue, the one causing us the most pain, and then we begin working on all the smaller areas God reveals to us. The process works because God is in it. All we need to do is acknowledge the need for change, offer ourselves to him, and then work alongside him while he works those things out in our lives.
Thank you, Lord, for helping me to see the flaws behind my failings. With your help, I will face them one day at a time. In Jesus’ name, Amen