Accept the TRUTH

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2 Corinthians 7:8-9

I am not sorry that I sent that severe letter to you, though I was sorry at first, for I know it was painful to you for a little while.  Now I am glad I sent it, not because it hurt you, but because the pain caused you to repent and change your ways. It was the kind of sorrow God wants his people to have, so you were not harmed by us in any way

None of us like facing the truth!  We try to ignore it or or stuff it down. We may have tried to block it out through our drug of choice. We may have tried to avoid facing it through blaming others  or justifying it in some other way. But the truth doesn’t go away: We need to learn to admit and accept the truth about ourselves, our circumstances and our sins in order to move forward in the recovery process and grow spiritually.

WE NEED TO ACCEPT THE TRUTH AS A POSITIVE PART OF RECOVERY – NOT A PUNISHMENT,

God’s Word is Dependable

revelation 21.5-7Look! I’m making everything new. Write it all down—each word dependable and accurate.” Then he said, “It’s happened. I’m A to Z. I’m the Beginning, I’m the Conclusion. From Water-of-Life Well I give freely to the thirsty. Conquerors inherit all this. I’ll be God to them, they’ll be sons and daughters to me.

God the Creator is also God the Re-Creator. He created us in His image and we messed it up, our sinful natures leading us toward destruction. We see evidence through our wrong decisions, actions and attitudes. 

God will have the final judgement on each of us and He promises to make ‘everything new’ if we are willing to turn our lives over to His care and control and trust Him in every area of our lives.

When you are discouraged, and feel like giving up remember God’s promise. When you see no way forward look to Jesus. And, be prepared for that which is yet to come.

Thursday 13.11.2014

OVERCOMING FEELINGS OF SHAME

READ: 1 Samuel 10:1-27

FOCUS VERSE: 1 Samuel 10:22 Samuel went back to God: “Is he anywhere around?” God said, “Yes, he’s right over there-hidden in that pile of baggage.”

When the Israelites assembled to choose a king, Saul aready knew he was the one (vs 1) Instead of stepping up he hid amongst the baggage. Often we hide from important responsibilities because we are afraid of failure, afraid of what other people may think. Or, we may just be to ashamed of our past to move forward. Recovery is a process of stepping up to our responsibilities. Of relying on God to provide and equip us for the task ahead rather than hiding in our feelings of SHAME.

FEELINGS:

Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful, a puzzle that no one can figure out.

– You can’t trust your feelings:

1 John 3:18-20 My dear children, let’s not just talk about love; let’s practice real love. [19] This is the only way we’ll know we’re living truly, living in God’s reality. [20] It’s also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it. For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves.

– Walk the Walk:

Proverbs 28:26 If you think you know it all, you’re a fool for sure; real survivors learn wisdom from others.

– You don’t have all the answers:

Proverbs 14:12-13 There’s a way of life that looks harmless enough; look again-it leads straight to hell.[13] Sure, those people appear to be having a good time, but all that laughter will end in heartbreak.

– Follow the Steps:

2 Tim. 3:1-5 Don’t be naive. There are difficult times ahead. [2] As the end approaches, people are going to be self-absorbed, money-hungry, self-promoting, stuck-up, profane, contemptuous of parents, crude, coarse, [3] dog-eat-dog, unbending, slanderers, impulsively wild, savage, cynical, [4] treacherous, ruthless, bloated windbags, addicted to lust, and allergic to God. [5] They’ll make a show of religion, but behind the scenes they’re animals. Stay clear of these people.

– It’s not always going to be easy:

1 John 2:15 Don’t love the world’s ways. Don’t love the world’s goods. Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father.

– Learn and live God’s purpose for you:

Overcoming Insecurity:

Philip. 4:6-9 Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. [7] Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life. [8] Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious-the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. [9] Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.

– Stop worrying:

Ephes. 6:10-13 God is strong, and he wants you strong. [11] So take everything the Master has set out for you, well-made weapons of the best materials. And put them to use so you will be able to stand up to everything the Devil throws your way. [12] This is no afternoon athletic contest that we’ll walk away from and forget about in a couple of hours. This is for keeps, a life-or-death fight to the finish against the Devil and all his angels. [13] Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet.

– Be prepared:

Romans 12:2 Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.

– Accept and expect change:

OVERCOMING FEELINGS OF REJECTION:

Luke 6:22 “Count yourself blessed every time someone cuts you down or throws you out, every time someone smears or blackens your name to discredit me. What it means is that the truth is too close for comfort and that that person is uncomfortable.

– Count your blessings:

Romans 8:28 ……. we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.

– Think and live positively:

Matthew 10:14 If they don’t welcome you, quietly withdraw. Don’t make a scene. Shrug your shoulders and be on your way.

– Not everyone is going to be supportive:

OVERCOMING FEELINGS OF SHAME:

Philip. 3:13 Friends, don’t get me wrong: By no means do I count myself an expert in all of this, but I’ve got my eye on the goal, where God is beckoning us onward-to Jesus.

– Rely on Jesus:

1 John 1:9 ……… if we admit our sins-make a clean breast of them-he won’t let us down; he’ll be true to himself. He’ll forgive our sins and purge us of all wrongdoing.

– Confess your shame:

2 Cor. 7:10 Distress that drives us to God does that. It turns us around. It gets us back in the way of salvation. We never regret that kind of pain. But those who let distress drive them away from God are full of regrets, end up on a deathbed of regrets.

– Shame is part of the recovery process:

Isaiah 43:18-19 “Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history. [19] Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it? There it is! I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands.

– Get on with living:

Joel 2:25 “I’ll make up for the years of the locust, the great locust devastation-Locusts savage, locusts deadly,fierce locusts, locusts of doom,That great locust invasion I sent your way.

– Nothing is impossible with God.

God can use our bitterness and resentments to change or hearts

Today at Belgrave South Baptist Church pastor Andrew Fisher shared  a message on a four week series based on the book of Jonah, concentrating on chapter 4 of the book.

Jonah 4:4-6 This change of plans greatly upset Jonah, and he became very angry. So he complained to the Lord about it: “Didn’t I say before I left home that you would do this, Lord? That is why I ran away to Tarshish! I knew that you are a merciful and compassionate God, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love. You are eager to turn back from destroying people.  Just kill me now,

Lord! I’d rather be dead than alive if what I predicted will not happen.”  The Lord replied, “Is it right for you to be angry about this?”

When people hurt s it easy to hate them and want vengeance. Holding on tightly to resentment and bitterness can destroy our God-given character. Bitterness and resentment can cause s to blame others for or problems. Make it impossible to forgive someone who has hurt us.

Jonah hated the people of Nineveh because of their cruelty towards Israel. God gave him the mission to warn them of their planned destruction – His response was to run away. Then God caused a storm to get Jonah’s attention, reluctantly Jonah obeyed and warned the people of Nineveh. This cased them to change their ways and put off God’s plan for their destruction. – Jonah’s response: anger with God to the point He wanted to die.

Sometimes in our lives when god calls us to do something our first response is to runaway. Then sometimes, like He did to Jonah God creates a storm to get our attention. And, sometimes what God wants s to do is for people whom we hold resentment and bitterness against. In those times God uses whatever He is calling us to do to change our hearts

Recovery takes time, but through the process God calls us to be willing to use the circumstances into which He leads us to change our hearts.

When others let you down

My life at the moment is pretty much caught up in other peoples agendas. And, as a follower of Jesus I try as best I can to ‘go with the flow.’ But sometimes it’s difficult.

When others agendas change and you find you have wasted a lot of effort on things that no longer matter, (at least I learned some new skills) it’s hard to grin and bare it. And, with some of their agenda changes I get angry. When I get angry I find myself asking God “what am I angry about?”

One of those changes of agenda happened recently. And I confess I have been carrying a bit of anger, hurt, disappointment because of it.

Now I don’t know about you but in my make up when I get angry, hurt and disappointed my first reaction is usually ‘ATTACK’ ‘GET EVEN’ ‘HURT THEM.’ Glad to say I didn’t: I stopped, I prayed and I began reading the Bible, asking God to give me something to help me through the anger, hurt and disappointment. To change my attitude and my heart and show me what to do.

He led me here:John 5:30 I am able to do nothing from Myself independently, of My own accord—but only as I am taught by God and as I get His orders. Even as I hear, I judge I decide as I am bidden to decide. As the voice comes to Me, so I give a decision, and My judgment is right just, righteous, because I do not seek or consult My own will I have no desire to do what is pleasing to Myself, My own aim, My own purpose but only the will and pleasure of the Father Who sent Me.

Thank You Lord, for helping me understand “I can do nothing on my own.” “I need to wait on You to decide what is next.” I need to trust that as well as having my best interests at heart, You also have the best interests of others. Help me today to patiently wait on your next plan for my agenda. Amen

Day 364 – 30th December 2013

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As the year 2013 draws to an end I am reminded. as I am at most new years of my Scottish heritage.

Above the door in my house hangs the plaque on the left. Which includes the Boyle family crest and motto ‘Dominus Providebit’, which translated says ‘The Lord will provide,’

This year I want to add to it the tartan on the right, in obedience to the scripture in Exodus 20 that says “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”

The Morrison Hunting Ancient tartan in honor of my Papa (Grand father) Archie Morrison. Who no matter how many times I messed up was always there to support and encourage me.

The Boyle Family Crest in honor of my Dad (Edward Boyle) whom I lost contact with when he and Mum divorced when i was young but was reunited with when he came to Australia dying of cancer. For all the years of separation one thing I was always confident. My Dad loved me…

The Boyle Family Motto in honor of my heavenly Father who provided and opportunity to overcome my addictions and compulsions and continues to provide in my life opportunities for me and mine to love and serve Him.

And, lastly but in no way least my Mum. who has been my rock all through my life. I have memories of New years eve’s; dressed and waiting for ‘The Bells’ with a glass of Ginger Wine and Shortbread and the Celebration that began as the Bagpipes played ‘Auld lang Syne’ and led to a period of catching up with family and friends, who you may not have seen all year. Yet, you knew from a young age ‘New Year’ is important. A time to reminisce about underachieved goals and plan to do better in the opportunities of the year ahead.

I love my Scottish heritage! and I love my Family!

This year as the New Year rings in it is my prayer we will all take time to remember where we came from and use it to live better, wherever we are.

God Never Wastes a Hurt

John6.12When I completed the Salvation Army’s Bridge Program I went to work for Salvation Army Family Stores, and commenced work in the recycled clothing industry. A new Christian, I remember this verse had a big effect on my recovery.  I remember the impact of Christ on my life as I came to the realization that “The Salvation Army recycled clothes in order to raise funds to recycle lives.”

All of us in recovery have a story! Of how God raised us from despair and desperation, set s on a new road (His road) Stories of hurt and harm that He turned into stories of hope and happiness.

We are fortunate in recovery, more fortunate than most that in recovery groups all over the world we get opportunity to share what God has done and is doing in our lives on a daily basis.

If you get the opportunity this week to share your experience, strength and hope, take it! I know sometimes it hurts but the good news is – GOD NEVER WASTES A HURT! You came through it because He wants you to share it,