2016 Day 101

Step Ten:- Now that I am in the process of change, I will check myself daily to make sure I am not slipping back into my old ways and if I am, I will take steps to rectify itNow that I am in the process of change, I will check myself daily to make sure I am not slipping back into my old ways and if I am, I will take steps to rectify it

Genesis 31:45-55 Jacob took a stone and set it upright as a pillar. Jacob called his family around, “Get stones!” They gathered stones and heaped them up and then ate there beside the pile of stones. Laban named it in Aramaic, Yegar-sahadutha (Witness Monument); Jacob echoed the naming in Hebrew, Galeed (Witness Monument). Laban said, “This monument of stones will be a witness, beginning now, between you and me.” (That’s why it is called Galeed–Witness Monument.) It is also called Mizpah (Watchtower) because Laban said, “God keep watch between you and me when we are out of each other’s sight. If you mistreat my daughters or take other wives when there’s no one around to see you, God will see you and stand witness between us.” Laban continued to Jacob, “This monument of stones and this stone pillar that I have set up is a witness, a witness that I won’t cross this line to hurt you and you won’t cross this line to hurt me. The God of Abraham and the God of Nahor (the God of their ancestor) will keep things straight between us.” Jacob promised, swearing by the Fear, the God of his father Isaac. Then Jacob offered a sacrifice on the mountain and worshiped, calling in all his family members to the meal. They ate and slept that night on the mountain. Laban got up early the next morning, kissed his grandchildren and his daughters, blessed them, and then set off for home.

  • We need to set and maintain personal boundaries to protect our spiritual growth in recovery.
  • A large part of setting personal boundaries is knowing which relationships are unhealthy for our spiritual growth.
  • We need to learn t live withing the boundaries that God reveals to us.

2016 Day 75

Step Seven: Through acknowledgement of God’s supreme power, I humbly ask Him to help me change my sinful habits and attitudes

Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

  • In setting boundaries for our own behaviour, we tend to either make them too rigid or not develop healthy boundaries at all.

    We hope that your faith will grow so that the boundaries of our work among you will be extended. 2 Corinthians 10:15

  • Until we stop making excuses for our bad  behaviour, there is no hope for recovery.

    They all began making excuses. One said, ‘I have just bought a field and must inspect it. Please excuse me.Luke 14:18

  • It is important to evaluate our real needs and find constructive ways to meet those needs so we can get past our addictive behaviours and find peace

    Your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Matthew 6:32b

Getting it right

The way we treat those closest to us is important. Our spouses, children and other family members usually experience the worst of our behaviour when we are feeling unwell or under pressure. One of the things I am most aware of at present in my life is how I take negative feelings from situations unassociated with my family out on them. Saying things I don’t mean and meaning things I don’t say.

It is important for all of us as we go through our lives to be honest with our loved ones and help them understand why we do some of the things we do to avoid confusion and damage our relationships with them.

Proverbs 14:17 The hotheaded do things they’ll later regret; the coldhearted get the cold shoulder.