Colossians 3:12 You are God’s chosen people. You are holy and dearly loved. So put on tender mercy and kindness as if they were your clothes. Don’t be proud. Be gentle and patient.
God chose me! Because He loves me dearly, God chose me. What He asks me to do in return is to be gentle and patient. Two characteristics that I need to work on constantly.
I am not naturally a gentle person. I call a spade a spade and have been known to be more direct with some people as I probably should have been. I am not naturally patient. Some of the most frustrating times I have experienced in recovery have been when I thought I knew exactly what God wanted and He took too long to make it happen. We all need to understand, myself included recovery is a process that develops in God’s time for His glory.
- Are pride and impatience stopping you being and doing all God wants from you?
Romans 12:19 My friends, don’t try to get even. Leave room for God to show his anger. It is written, “I am the One who judges people. I will pay them back,” says the Lord.
Forgiveness is stronger than revenge. When I felt offended or hurt by someone in my using days my response was “Don’t get hurt get even.” My philosophy was if someone hurt me I would hurt them back, but worse. Always trying to prove I was stronger and tougher than everyone else. Even though I often didn’t feel that way.
Often we try to prove our authority and strength over others. Which in my own experience is usually an indication of our fear and self-doubt. Instead of feeling fear and self-doubt we need to hand our hurts and offense over to God and trust him to deal with it.
- In what areas are fear and self-doubt stopping you from repairing relationships?
Prayer: Lord help me today to overcome my feelings of fear and self-doubt
and put my faith in You.
1 John 3:22 We will receive from Him whatever we ask because we obey Him and do the things that please Him.
When you pray do you expect God to answer? If not, why are you bothering to pray?
God doesn’t always answer our prayers the way we think He should. Sometimes He says “Yes” sometimes He says “No” and sometimes He says “Not yet”
Communication with God is a learned experience, a disciplined experience, a personal experience of taking in God’s grace, God’s plan and God’s purpose for our lives. Prayer doesn’t change God, but it changes us. It’s a new ‘Master Plan’ for our lives where we learn to accept His will for our lives and keep moving forward in daily spiritual growth.
Philippians 2:4 None of you should look out just for your own good. You should also look out for the good of others.
Progression in the process of recovery brings us into relationships with others who may not be as far down the recovery road as we are.
I want to start with a word of warning. The first two years of recovery are about getting to know God and yourself. I would not advise anyone with any less than two years’ recovery up to Sponsor anyone else. That being said we all have something to offer each other. I would encourage everyone, no matter where you are on this spiritual journey to do what you can to help others.
- Always be ready to share your experience, strength, and hope.
- Only talk about your own experience.
- Before you share take time to talk to God about it.
Prayer: God, open my eyes and heart to being used by You to help others where I can.
Hebrews 6:12 Don’t drag your feet. Be like those who stay the course with committed faith and then get everything promised to them.
The battles of life ahead of us ensure we will all experience degrees of excitement. No two days will ever be the same. Our involvement or lack of involvement in them will determine how we fill our days. Each of us decides for themselves how we will move forward.
God urges us to decide selectively. Wrong choices can bring woeful results. Our inward drive to think and do the wrong things needs to be repelled. Hard times and hefty blows will be aimed at us. Harmful remarks will fall on our ears. Hurtful practices will get to us. Recovery is not a bed of roses. But it is the best life, not boring, fulfilling. Partnership with Jesus.
A cheerful heart brings a smile to your face; a sad heart makes it hard to get through the day. First, you learn humility, then you experience glory. Humility is a precursor to honor. The payoff for meekness and Fear-of-God is plenty and honor and a satisfying life.
I have done the Lord’s work humbly and with many tears. I have endured the trials that came to me. In the same way ….. all of you, serve each other in humility, for “God opposes the proud but favors the humble.”
Proverbs 15:13 ~ Proverbs 15:33 ~ Proverbs 18:12 ~ Proverbs 22:4 ~ Acts 20:19 – 1 Peter 5:5
1 Peter 2:1 Stop telling lies. Don’t pretend to be something you are not. Stop wanting what others have. Don’t speak against each other.
All the time in recovery I experience people who want to complain about others in recovery.
The Bible tells us to love God and love others. How can we do that when we are too busy taking other people’s inventories? The Serenity Prayer says in its first request to God; Grant me Serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
I am not responsible for anyone else’s recovery and they are not responsible for mine.
Another hard thing to do in the process of recovery is to allow others to make their own mistakes. Tell the truth about your own experience.
- When have you let someone else’s inventory damage your recovery?
Prayer: God help me today to concentrate on me.
Overwhelmed by guilt I came to recovery. Not because I wanted to but because I had nowhere else to go. Trouble by the mess I had made of my life I wanted to do better. I didn’t want to keep living the lies and the crisis I existed in daily.
The only way out for me was God. Admitting what I had done wrong to Him was one of the greatest reliefs I have ever experienced in my life. To tell him about things I had never told anyone about, and seek His help in changing them was a saving grace in my recovery journey. I held nothing back because I was aware if I failed again I was finished.
Dramatic but true I was troubled by my sin. The solution to the solution was confession and repentance.
- How are you dealing with the guilt?
Open up before God, keep nothing back; he’ll do whatever needs to be done. Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Then you will experience for yourselves the truth, and the truth will free you. Jesus then said, “I came into the world to bring everything into the clear light of day, making all the distinctions clear, so that those who have never seen will see, and those who have made a great pretense of seeing will be exposed as blind.”
Psalms 37:5 ~ Proverbs 3:5 ~ John 8:32 ~ John 9:39