Luke 6:28 Bless those who call down curses on you. And pray for those who treat you badly.
This I found hard to get my head around until I started to understand, most of the people I was holding resentments against didn’t even know it.
The only person we destroy when we hold onto resentment is ourselves.
Recovery is going to highlight in our lies some bad situations we have been in. We can get resentful and feel sorry for ourselves but we don’t need to stay that way. We can remove resentment from our lives by honestly expressing our pain and shame to God, forgiving others and concentrating on changing ourselves.
Prayer: God help me today to let go of my past and concentrate on being all You want me to be.
Numbers 23:19 God isn’t a mere man. He can’t lie. He isn’t a human being. He doesn’t change his mind. He speaks, and then he acts. He makes a promise, and then he keeps it.
Lying in the past was a way of life to me. Not only did I lie, I also believed my lies. When I came into recovery it took time for me to decipher what the truth was about me and about my life.
Today one of my motto’s is “Always tell the truth.” No matter how bad it is or what the consequences of it may be. Today I try to live a life of ‘Integrity’ I’d like to say I am always truthful, but that would be a lie!
Luke 19:8 Zacchaeus stood up. He said, “Look, Lord! Here and now I give half of what I own to those who are poor. And if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay it back. I will pay back four times the amount I took.”
God knows the things we have done wrong. He knows the people we need to make put on our list. Yet He leaves it up to us. He does that so we can learn the importance of honesty in the process of recovery.
When we write our list it can be tempting to leave people off because we didn’t hurt them very much, they hurt us just as bad or because we don’t think God really cares about that one.
Our list needs to include everyone we can remember hurting or who have hurt us. Remember the list isn’t going to be shared with anyone to be as honest as you can.
Prayer: Lord help me be as honest as I can when making my list.
Proverbs 28:1 The wicked are edgy with guilt, ready to run off even when no one’s after them; Honest people are relaxed and confident, bold as lions.
What do you think? With God on our side like this, how can we lose? Romans 8:31
Monday 16th July at Living Life Recovery
FORGIVEN TO FORGIVE
Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns anger away. But mean words stir up anger.
Uncontrolled anger will not repair relationships. The right attitude to people that have hurt you is forgiveness. The right attitude towards those you have hurt is to honestly accept your failure and seek their forgiveness.
Forgiveness doesn’t keep track of offenses. We should always forgive those who have hurt us.
Forgiveness needs to follow God’s pattern of forgiveness. Realising how much God has forgiven us of through the process of recovery we need to be willing to forgive with the same amount of forgiveness. If you are still angry towards those on your list who have hurt, you then you are not ready yet to forgive them or to talk to them about repairing relationships.
Prayer: God help me identify if there is anyone on my list I am not yet ready to speak to.
Psalms 62:8 Trust in him at all times, you people. Tell him all of your troubles. God is our place of safety.
Pour out your heart in prayer to God. Don’t hold anything back. Tell Him everything. Why? Because it is safe to do so.
Pre- recovery I never felt safe anywhere. I trusted no- one and if I am honest never really cared about anyone. I was self- centered and self- motivated. I was always weighing up the WIFM (what’s in it for me) before I proceeded to do anything. I certainly didn’t trust anyone, including myself.
Learning to trust God in my life was a slower process than most people who know me might think. I love this verse in the Bible Luke 16:10 “Suppose you can be trusted with very little. Then you can be trusted with a lot. But suppose you are not honest with very little. Then you will not be honest with a lot.”
– How much can God trust you?
Prayer: Lord help me to be honest and earn Your trust.
RECOVERY CHANGES LIVES
Psalms 32:3 When I kept silent about my sin, my body became weak because I groaned all day long.
Suppressed guilt and shame in my life as a result of how I was living made it impossible for me to live a normal life. All day, every day I searched in vain for an answer to my problems.
Coming into recovery changed that. Just being able to talk about my problems openly and honestly in a safe environment helped me so much to open my mind and heart to God and others. There is nothing I enjoy more in my life today than an opportunity to share my experience, strength and hope with people.
A number of years ago a Pastor in the church I belonged to used to ask me week after week “Archie are you RFA?” I never knew what he was talking about till I asked him weeks later. Ready for Anything!
Prayer: Lord today let me be ready for anything You prompt me to do and equip me to do it.
2 Timothy 2:22-26 Run away from infantile indulgence. Run after mature righteousness–faith, love, peace–joining those who are in honest and serious prayer before God. Refuse to get involved in inane discussions; they always end up in fights. God’s servant must not be argumentative, but a gentle listener and a teacher who keeps cool, working firmly but patiently with those who refuse to obey. You never know how or when God might sober them up with a change of heart and a turning to the truth, enabling them to escape the Devil’s trap, where they are caught and held captive, forced to run his errands.
Many years ago in Alcoholics Anonymous my sponsor encouraged me to ‘Stick with The Winners!’ That for me meant changing the circle of people I mixed with. Most of the people I mixed with till then drank like me, took drugs like me and lived like me. Recovery began to work for me when I made a conscious decision to change the people I associated with. Not always easy but always necessary.
to walk the road of recovery successfully we need people in our lives who will encourage us and support us in the process of recovery and spiritual growth. If you haven’t got any you need to find some, and you won’t find them in the places that brought you unstuck in life.
Prayer: Lord introduce me to the right people. Positive,
encouraging people who love You and love life.
Psalms 1:3 Everything they do is successful.
Many of us turned to alcohol and drugs to help us ‘succeed’ in business, as adults or as people. For a while it worked, we were better at all sorts of things, coped better when we were under the influence.When the effects of the alcohol and drugs wore off, more often than not reality set in. Faced with the truth for most of us leading us back to more alcohol and more drugs to to live in the fantasy of coping.
In recovery we learn to face up to others people’s expectations of us being honest with ourselves and with them. We don’t need to always be the best in business, as adults or as people. It’s okay not to awlays be okay.
I believe God has the power to help me to live my life without alcohol and drugs. He can hel me to achieve the right balance between expectations and abilities. Like Paul I can now say “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” I can face life’s opportunities and problems without having to turn to my drug of choice, thanks to my faith in God.
I pray that I will learn to rely on God’s strength when face with situations
and problems I find it difficult to cope with.