Psalms 51:14 Take away my guilt. Then my tongue will sing about how right you are no matter what you do.
Guilt comes from giving in to our temptations. To eliminate guilt in our lives we need to eliminate the cause of our guilt. Because of who we are, where we have come from and what we are going through now all of us have some degree of guilty feelings. In the past, we have hidden them behind our problems and defects.
As we go through the process of recovery and especially in the process of repairing relationships we need to learn to lean on God. We need to learn recovery is a process of daily confession our sin to God to avoid the temptations around about us.
Guilt in our lives comes from a failure to do what God expects us to do. Learn to live what you believe.
- Do your actions match your beliefs?
- If not, why not?
Ecclesiastes 3:1 in The Message Bible says “There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on earth.”
Since 1987 I have been in recovery from alcohol addiction and drug abuse. Since 2005 I have written blogs around the process of recovery. I believe I am one of the most fortunate people on this planet, having discovered at an early age there is a better way to live. To live without drugs and alcohol and all the problems that go with them.
Over the years I have been involved in many ‘Recovery Fellowship Groups.’ as well as led many. I have been privileged to work with many people one-on-one in their quests to overcome the struggles of everyday life. And, I have taken many different approaches to the recovery process.
In 1989 I discovered The Way to recovery is through a personal relationship with the One True Higher Power, Jesus Christ.
Tonight I changed the header on my blog from ‘Living Life Recovery ~ Church For People With Addictions’ to “Living Life Recovery ~ What I have learned about recovery.” You see, I believe the slogan I have heard many times in recovery meetings that says “You can’t give away what you don’t have.”
All I have in the process of recovery and a personal relationship with Jesus Christ is my own experience.
In the ‘Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous,’ it says “our stories disclose in a general way what we used to be like, what happened and what we are like now.” It is my hope and prayer that from this point forward that is what will be contained in this blog. I encourage anyone reading to “take what you want and leave the rest.” None of us has all the answers for recovery and none of us can solve all our problems on our own. The ‘Good News’ is we all have access to ‘The One.” who can. His name is Jesus and I hope that through this blog you may identify some of the things He has taught me and be encouraged to share them with others as you walk the daily path of “Living Life Recovery”
1 Corinthians 8:3 We never really know enough until we recognize that God alone knows it all.
Knowing that God loves us is a good place to start the recovery process. Our pasts filled with bad choices, wrong decsions and broken realtionships can begin to heal when we accept how much He loves us and has already done for us so we can become ‘New Creations.’
1 John 1:5-10 This is the message God has given us to pass on to you: that God is Light and in him is no darkness at all. So if we say we are his friends but go on living in spiritual darkness and sin, we are lying. But if we are living in the light of God’s presence, just as Christ does, then we have wonderful fellowship and joy with each other, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from every sin.If we say that we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and refusing to accept the truth. But if we confess our sins to him, he can be depended on to forgive us and to cleanse us from every wrong. And it is perfectly proper for God to do this for us because Christ died to wash away our sins.
Unless we change our character we cannot successfully acheive recovery. Step Four says “In order to help me change, I will investigate and record with God’s help my sinful habits and attitudes.” We cannot progress in the process unless we are willing to change and seek God’s will for our lives, put all of our efforts into achieving it. As we learn His will and put it into practice the way we relate to others should be evidence of His saving grace in our lives and our dependence on Him.
2 Corinthians 6:14-18 Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not a partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple? But that is exactly what we are, each of us a temple in whom God lives. God himself put it this way: “I’ll live in them, move into them; I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people. So leave the corruption and compromise; leave it for good,” says God. “Don’t link up with those who will pollute you. I want you all for myself. I’ll be a Father to you; you’ll be sons and daughters to me.” The Word of the Master, God.
I have a confession to make “I am not very good at this.” I remember being told to see the good in everyone and help people where ever I can. I love recovery and am passionate about introducing those who are still caught up in the addictions and compulsions to a ‘New Way of Living.’ I cop and put up with a lot of unwarranted and unfriendly flack for that.
1 Peter 3:16 “Keep a clear conscience before God so that when people throw mud at you, none of it will stick. They’ll end up realizing that they’re the ones who need a bath.” Not always easy. I read recently “You can’t stop people saying wrong things about you, but you can stop supplying them with ammunition.” As long as we are living the best we can with God’s guidance and help nothing can separate us from His love and His presence. We can have confidence in the future, know that He is faithful and be content in Him.
1 John 2:9 Suppose someone claims to be in the light but hates his brother or sister. Then he is still in the darkness.
Not everyone you meet on the journey of recovery is on the right path. In the Bible hatred and love as moral qualities are not primary emotions. They are attitudes expressed by our actions. In recovery knowing who’s on the right path is expressed in how the live, not what they say.
1 John 2:26 I’m writing these things to warn you about those who are trying to lead you down the wrong path. Recovery requires repentance and repentance needs to be accompanied by action.
Recovery means more than just knowing the process. It means putting the process into daily living.
- How are you applying the processes you are learning in recovery to you daily life?
Romans 14:7 We don’t live for ourselves alone. And we don’t die all by ourselves.
The most important relationship in our recovery is our relationship with God. Everything we are going through is to bring us to the point of service to Him and others.
He rescued me from a fate worse than death. He helped me to clean up my life and He continues to help me to continue moving forward in spiritual recovery day by day. Everything I think, say and do is seen by Him and I try to live my life at all times in a manner that brings glory to Him.
None of us arrived in recovery because we wanted to. We arrived in recovery because God lead us here. Every day we need to remember that and do our best to live our lives in ways that won’t embarrass or offend Him.
- What are you still doing in your life that you are embarrassed about?
Prayer: Lord help me today not to offend or embarrass You
Romans 12:17-18 Don’t hit back; discover beauty in everyone. If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody.
I read this verse and immediately into my head jumps the phrase “Don’t get hurt, get even.” That’s how I used to think. If you hurt me I would hurt you back, but worse. If you took something from me I would take away something from you, but more precious. It wasn’t a healthy way to live and it meant through recovery I had a lot of work to do on me.
The verse 18 says “ If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody..” In other words, don’t hold grudges and take action that is going to repair relationships.
I have heard a lot of people over the years say to me “I talked to God about it, that’s enough.” It’s not! None of us were designed to live alone with God. He designed us for relationship/ To not only get along with others but to help others become all that He created them to be.
- Who would you rather hold a grudge against than repair the relationship with?
Prayer: Lord help me today to recognize the people in my life I am holding resentments against and do whatever I can to repair our relationship.
Our life has been unmanageable and out of control. When we admit our powerlessness and turn our life over to God, we not only start the recovery process but also take the first steps toward finding true joy.