Step Twelve Having gone through these steps and discovering the importance of an individual relationship with God through Jesus, I will try to live according to His principles and to lead others to a personal relationship with Him.
Jesus told His disciples, “I have been given all authority in heaven and on earth. Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations.” Matthew 28:18-19
1 John 4:18 Perfect love drives fear away. Fear has to do with being punished. The one who fears does not have perfect love.
Genuine love in our lives confirms our salvation. One of my biggest fears during my addictive years was fear of abandonment. Since high school, I have always been involved in a romantic relationship. Some of them unhealthy. Most of them for the wrong reasons.
I did not cope with being alone! Since I have been in recovery I have had one romantic relationship, with my wife. The difference between my relationship with my wife and the others in my life is acknowledging God’s love and following – His guidance in our lives.
- Do you struggle with fear of abandonment?
Prayer: God help me today to be content in my relationship with You.
Matthew 19:26 Jesus looked hard at them and said, “No chance at all if you think you can pull it off yourself. Every chance in the world if you trust God to do it.”
When we turn our will and life over to the care of God He forgives us. Then He paves the way for us to make amends, opening the opportunity for us to repair relationships with others.
Matthew 5:43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor.”
Welcome to Step Eight, which says “As part of the process of change, I will identify and record everyone I have harmed and through prayer become willing to make restitution to them.”
Now that we have worked on our relationship with God. Have taken time to get to know ourselves and have commenced the process of change it is time to start working on repairing our relationships with others. Part of that process is identifying the people hurt by our sinful habits and attitudes. I know many of us have been hurt by others and they need to go on our lists, but the purpose of this step is to identify those we have hurt. This is a preparation step for making amends and restitution. An important part of repairing broken relationships.
- Are you prepared to honestly make a list of people you have harmed and how you have hurt them?
“When You sit on Your glorious throne, we want to sit in places of honor next to You, one on Your right and the other on Your left.” Mark 10:37
The disciples missed the point.They thought Jesus would establish an earthly kingdom hat would free Israel from Romes oppression. God’s Kingdom is not of this world. It is not palace and throne centred but is in the hearts of all who believe in Him and follow Him.
Jesus tells us to pray “Thy Kingdom come” on earth as it is in heaven. This is a reference to God’s spiritual reign. Luke 17:21 says “The kingdom of God is within you.” That says to me ‘The Kingdom of God’ is my most valuable possession, that lives in my heart and I need to look after. It also tells me that I (and you) can live as citizens of heaven right here, right now. It requires me to put Jesus in His rightful place in my life (Lord and Saviour)It requires me to discover His purpose for my life and put all my efforts into achieving it. It requires me ‘Loving Others’ because they are important to God.
How will Living Life Recovery help me to see the Kingdom of God? you say. By learning and applying the Twelve Steps of Living Life Recovery to your everyday living I guarantee you will discover a living, loving, sharing, caring relationship with Jesus that will not only help you overcome all the hurdles in your life right now but will also give you a life far beyond your wildest dreams and expectations.
An important principle in the process of recovery is ‘expecting God to act.‘ in your best interest.
Proverbs 28:26 Anyone who trusts in himself is foolish. But a person who lives wisely is kept safe.
“I only trust myself!” “I can do it!”
Two of the most self-deceptive statements we have all said at one time or another in our lives. We have been on this road together for a little while now and I want to ask you the question: Who do you trust?
Some of the most valuable things I have learned, implemented and shared in my recovery and life are things I have learned from other people. None of us are here by mistake. We are here because it is where we need to be and God has brought us here.
Proverbs 3:5-7 says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take. Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the Lord and turn away from evil.”
I believe we need two solid relationships in our life. One is with someone who is further down the recovery road than we are. Who can help us not to make the same mistakes others have made. And, someone who is on our level, walking with us who will keep us on track and keep us accountable on a day to day basis.
- Have you established a mentor/sponsor and accountability partner?
- If not, why not? Do it now, today!
Psalms 18:6 When I was in trouble, I called out to the Lord. I cried to my God for help. From his temple, he heard my voice. My cry for help reached his ears.
The night before you entered recovery; do you remember where you were? What you were doing?
It is good sometimes to remember where we came from and reflect on how we got to where we are now.
My journey into spiritual recovery involved leaving behind everything I knew and loved and moving to a place where I knew no-one and had no supports.
It was through that experience I learned the importance of a personal relationship with God and my need to rely on Him.
- Do you remember how you used to think and act?
- How have you changed?
Matthew 12:35 A good man says good things. These come from the good that is put away inside him. An evil man says evil things. These come from the evil that is put away inside him.
A good man says good things! What we say should please God. When you speak to others would you speak differently if you though God was examining every word you said? Would He approve of your words and your thoughts?
As we progress in recovery we need to change the way we think and the way we speak. I used to swear a lot. I don’t know why I just did. And I used to think all the wrong thoughts. Until I came into relationship with the Holy Spirit, started to check myself and ask myself the question: “Would God approve?” We change what we say when we allow God’s love to guide our day.”
- Do you swear a lot and do you think God approves?
Prayer: Lord today let me speak to others as I would to You and to only use word that You approve.