Category: Discussion Starters

Stop Telling Lies

Numbers 23:19 God is not man, one given to lies, and not a son of man changing his mind. Does he speak and not do what he says? Does he promise and not come through?

God doesn’t lie. He can’t lie. To suggest He can lie is suggesting He is not Divine and not God. Lying in my past, on the other hand, was second nature to me. Not only did I lie a lot but I also believed the lies I told, convinced myself I was telling the truth. When I entered recovery it took me time to decipher the truth about myself, about my life and about my addiction. I always knew I had a problem with alcohol but I never saw myself as an alcoholic.

Today I try to live with ‘Integrity’ in every area of my life. I believe that recovery requires rigorous honesty and so I always try to tell the truth, regardless of the consequences. I would love to say I am always honest but that would be a lie because I am human and we humans lie.

The Bible tells us integrity: TAKES EFFORT
I refuse to take a second look at corrupting people and degrading things. I reject made-in-Canaan gods, stay clear of contamination. The crooked in heart keep their distance; I refuse to shake hands with those who plan evil. I put a gag on the gossip who bad-mouths his neighbor; I can’t stand arrogance. Psalms 101:3-5 #Inegrity #Convince #Truth

Recovery is about letting God’s Word show us the standards we should live by.

January 2, 2020

Salvation is freely given but it cost God a lot

Read Romans 3:22-26
Focus Verse: Since we’ve compiled this long and sorry record as sinners (both us and them) and proved that we are utterly incapable of living the glorious lives God wills for us.

One of the hardest things for any of us to do is admit failure.

The ‘Good News’ is we are now in a place where everyone is on the same page and we are all aiming for the same goal ‘recovery from the pain our problems have caused us through our bad choices.’

None of us is good enough to achieve recovery on our own. The Bible tells us that. We all need God’s help and we all need each other.

  • Decide today to follow God’s direction for your recovery.
  • Find one person in your support group who you have something in common with and commit to helping each other.

“I have told you these things so that you can have peace because of me. In this world, you will have trouble. But cheer up! I have won the battle over the world.” John 16:33

You are tempted in the same way all other human beings are. God is faithful. He will not let you be tempted any more than you can take. But when you are tempted, God will give you a way out so that you can stand up under it.
1 Corinthians 10:13

“Everything is permitted.” But not everything is good for us. Again you say, “Everything is permitted.” But not everything builds us up. 1 Corinthians 10:23

Support Verses:
Proverbs 25:28
1 Corinthians 9:27
1 Peter 5:8
James 1:19
1 Thessalonians 5:22
1 Corinthians 6:12

Temptation doesn’t stop being a problem for us because we make a choice to change. We are tempted because we are human and our nature is sinful.
God gives. #Admit #Achieve #Choices

Caring Is A Choice


I didn’t want to do anything behind your back,
make you do a good deed that you hadn’t willingly agreed to.
Philemon 1:14

 Recovery is a choice and how far we want to go to change our lives is a choice.

How committed are you to repairing relationships?

 Not all of us are the same. We have different strengths, weaknesses, abilities, and gifts. We are not all meant to teach, we are not all meant to become Sponsors or mentors, but we are all meant to care.

Caring is also a choice. The great thing about the choices we make in our lives is we usually make our choices based on how much we are willing to commit.  The depth we are prepared to go to repairing our relationships is also dependent on how much we care and are willing to commit.

The one relationship we must never skimp on a commitment to is our relationship with God.


 Prayer: Lord today help me to care and commit to repairing my relationships.

Praise God and Encourage Others

Read: Psalm 34:1-7
Focus Verse: I prayed to the Lord, and He answered me. He freed me from all my fears. 

In the process of God changing our sinful habits and attitudes it is important we keep our focus on Him.

If you ask ten different people in recovery the best way of achieving and maintaining recovery you will get ten different answers.

Recovery in my life is covered in prayer, meditation and being led by God. I do have trusted people in my life whom I go to bounce things off but the final decision in everything I do lies with me and God. God gave us free will for a reason. I believe that reason is to see how much we have learned through a relationship with Him and how we implement in our daily living. Don’t make any decisions you have not talked to God about.

  • When was the last time you focused on God?


Prayer: Lord help me today to focus on You and your will for me.

One of my biggest concerns in my life is ‘people who still suffer from the negative effects of their problems in their lives.’ These verses encourage us to share what God is doing in and through our lives with others. Bill Wilson found relief from alcoholism when he found another alcoholic to share with. We need to learn to do the same. To share our faith and encourage others to get to know Jesus for themselves.

God has a Plan and a Purpose for us all

Read: Psalm 32:8-11
Focus Verse: I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.

God has a plan and a purpose for us all. Just as He created us all in His image as individuals His plan for our recovery is individual.

One of the most important aspects of the recovery process is the subject of sponsors/mentors. We all need one, but they need to be the right one. Sponsors/mentors in the process of recovery are special individuals. Whose God-given task is to guide and support people on God’s path for them. It is not to create carbon copies of ourselves.

The carbon copy of recovery is Jesus Christ and our goal through the process of character change needs to be to become more like Him.

  • Do you have a Sponsor or Mentor who is helping you in recovery?


Prayer: Lord help me discover Your individual plan for my life and follow it.


We need to be careful not give in to the influences of others at the cost of jeopardising our recovery.


Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you. “Whoever acknowledges me before others, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven.


You know that when you were pagans, somehow or other you were influenced and led astray to mute idols. Ask yourself this question “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people


Matthew 5:16 ~ Matthew 7:12 ~ Matthew 10:32

1 Corinthians 12:2 ~ Galatians 1:10

Simply Trusting Every Day

Recovery is a fresh start to a new life where God is in charge and we are not. Our sinful habits and attitudes are taken away through simply trusting every day.

A song that comes to mind right now as I write these words says:

Simply trusting every day.
Trusting through a stormy way,
Even when my faith is small,
Trusting Jesus, that is all.

For me, that is what recovery is all about – TRUSTING JESUS. He has all the power. He has all the understanding and wisdom and He is my Higher Power, Trusting Him every day in my life requires all the courage I can muster. It requires I put my complete confidence in Him and it requires my patience to wait on Him when He says “Not Yet!”

 ­Do you trust Jesus and are you willing to wait on Him?


Prayer: God help me to simply trust even when my faith is small

Tough Decisions

Psalms 25:8 The Lord is honest and good. He teaches sinners to walk in his ways.

Lying in the process of recovery destroys our integrity.

A number of years ago I worked for The Salvation Army’s Family Stores, now Salvo Stores and the Territorial Director retired. The new Territorial Director suggested to me I was in the wrong job. A job I had been in for many years. He said to me “I don’t want to lose you so I want you to write a new Job description for yourself.” I was devastated. Because I believed then and still believe I was in a God-called position in my life. The result of that conversation was that after eighteen years working for Family Stores I resigned.

The reason I resigned was that I believed and still believe what I was being asked to do in the company went against God’s integrity.

  • What tough decisions is God asking you to make?


Prayer: Lord help me to make the tough decisions I need to make

Asking According to His Will

1 John 5:14 How bold and free we then become in his presence, freely asking according to his will, sure that he’s listening.

The emphasis here is on God’s will, not our will. When we communicate with God, we don’t demand what we want; rather we discuss with Him what He wants for us. If we align our prayers to His will, He will listen; and we can be certain that if He listens, He will give us a definite answer.

Not always the answer we want but always the answer we need. I have often heard people say “I prayed but nothing is happening.” Really? Sometimes the inability to see God’s response is based on our own expectations and desires.

There are things in life we all want, some of which are not right for us according to God’s plan for our lives. A lesson I have had to learn in recovery is that God’s agenda doesn’t always match with mine and sometimes like any loving Father He chooses to say nothing. Not because He is speechless of has nothing to say but sometimes because He knows we aren’t listening anyway.


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